Out of Comfort Zone Connections, Part II - Reaching In

Am I the only one completely jazzed about the internet? Silly question I know. During my deployment, I developed a deep appreciation for virtual connection. Even with intermittent WiFi, I created online relationships. I may never have met some of these incredible people had plugged into my normal life. I grabbed opportunities to reach into the net. I found others in my tribe and built relationships with mentors, peers, and mentees - all online.

My deployed Female All Calls lead to Wingwoman Wednesday (W3); a bi-monthly Lean In Circle. We gathered for mentoring, pro development, and an outlet for safety and security. One day, I Googled material for the topic, “Mentors & Sponsors.” I found the article “How I Started a Military Mentor Network.” Another Lean In Circle led by Lt Col Erika Cashin. I searched for her on the military "GAL" and on a whim, emailed her…she immediately responded. I asked her if she would be my friend and she said yes! She exposed me to the Lean In community and we collaborated on Operation Albright. Everything spiraled in a positive direction. All from one email I decided to write to a virtual stranger.

Then I discovered other like-minded groups. Online supportive communities who inspired me to build my own platform, this website. It is thrilling to meet others dedicated to leveling the military playing field. Or should I say battleground? Am now conjuring images of a GBU-38 JDAM…YES! Okay, my pension for violence is coming out…I’ll stick to playing field. I found passion for the empowerment of women like my own. I am thrilled to meet any women and men who feel the same.

Furthermore, the internet is an incredible platform for generating social change. Although there are trolls and negative attitudes, I'm in awe of all the positive campaigns. In fact, I read "23 Inspiring Feminist Digital Campaigns That Changed the World." I am amazed at of how social media is making a difference.

Email relationships are also an excellent opportunity to seek and receive mentorship. While deployed, I had the great fortune of meeting a phenomenal retired Colonel. Working on her Doctorate; her generosity with her email time taught me so much. I was also able to reach out online and make connections with other women on base. Even when our schedules prevented in person mentorship. I have a tendency towards wordiness. Taking the time to type my questions/responses allowed me to deliberate with purpose. I also had the opportunity to pay it forward, send emails and check-in with those I mentor. I worked to keep in contact with my friends, though I can always improve in that department.

Is there someone out there you admire? Do you work with them or are they a total stranger? Shoot them a note! Don’t say “Will you be my mentor” as Sheryl Sandberg dissuades in her book. Instead of something awkward, ask a question or for advice on a specific topic. Or if they inspire you, simply let them know. I recommend finding your online tribe, a forum. Maybe your passion for underwater basket weaving. The digital divide is bringing us closer in our interests and passions. Grow your network and grow yourself. Being deployed forced online connections. I will continue to expand upon now that I'm home.

I must mention I am grateful for the internet to assist in maintaining relationships. I met many during this trip. Social networking helped soften the goodbyes. I know I will maintain a connection with all the wonderful folks I am grateful to have met.

New to my articles? Read Outside Comfort Zone Connections - Part I, Reaching Up